This is for the girls who suffer from eating disorders. This is for the girls who are overweight. This is for the girls with makeup. This is for the girls with no makeup at all. This is for the girly-girls. This is for the boyish-girls. This is for every girl in between. This is for all the girls who hate their stomachs, their face, their hair, their thighs, their butts and boobs.
 
STOP.
 
For the love of God, stop hating yourself.
 
I know, I know. It's not that simple that you can just stop when someone tells you to. But what if it could be? What if, when someone says "You're perfect the way you are, don't hate yourself", you could just take all that self-hatred and throw it to hell?
 
Well, I'm going to tell you a secret of mine. Feel free to tell it to friends and family, partners and enemies. It's not super important that it stays a secret, actually. Here goes nothing: You can do that! And what proof do I have that this is possible? Myself, of course! I have gradually taken every small hatred I have of myself, and I have looked it dead in the eye and told it to fuck off.

My confidence has taken a lot of beatings. I have been called everything from whore to shrimp-face (yeah, I don't even know the logic behind that one to be honest...). I have been told that I would stay single for the rest of my life, because no sane guy would ever want to date someone that looked as awful as me.

The worst thing was that I let each and every insult leave a deep scar in my confidence. I forgot to put that protecting "I don't care what you think about me, I don't think about you at all"-layer over my confidence, and instead just let them push me further and further down.

But no more of that bullshit. I am not going to let them get to me anymore. They're making me hate the body that I have to live with for the rest of my life. And if I don't love myself, then who will? That my friends, is exactly how I want you to think as well. So what if you don't look like a model? Not even models look like models! (You know, with all this photoshop that is available nowadays).

Now, put this paper away (or computer, or wherever you may be reading this) and go to the mirror. Take a close look at every part of your body that you don't like and repeat the following:

"I am a beautiful unicorn." (Don't question it, just do it). "I am unique in my own way, and I am also majestic because I love myself."

And the next time someone says a mean comment about your appearances, go up to them and hug them. Also, don't forget to tell them that you are 100% supportive of whatever visual defect they have. And smile, just smile, because you are alive and just that is something beautiful in itself.

 

"And the funny thing about it is,

I've spent so much time hating it

but it never says a bad word about me.

This is my body and it's fine

It's where I spend the vast majority of my time

It's not perfect, but it's mine."

- Tim Minchin

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